ASHER'S STORY



Anencephaly.
A word that changed everything.
But lets not get ahead of ourselves…

It's the middle of January; we find out we are pregnant. 3.5 years into marriage, we had just begun trying, and out of nowhere the Lord blesses us with a baby. We go to the doctor to confirm what our test had said that indeed, we are pregnant. Our little baby would be here October 1st. This idea of bringing a new life into the world begins to take shape. I remember sitting with Meagan thinking, “This is going to change everything.” No truer words have ever been thought. The months progress, check up after check up we are told we have a healthy little baby, heart beating 170 BPM. “It’s a girl” many tell us thanks to the high heart rate. It's late March and the count down is on to the gender appointment. “It's too early to tell it now,” our doctor tells us, “by your next appointment we will definitely be able to tell!” Labs are drawn and we are sent home anxiously awaiting the moment we will find out, boy or girl.

Do you ever have those moments when the record player of life comes to a screeching halt? 


The phone call comes from Meagan’s Doctor, a test result is slightly elevated. We have a 1 in 48 risk of a Neural Tube Defect she says. I immediately begin Googling what that means and put the computer away, scared of the possiblities. We are told not to worry and that we still have a 1 in 47 chance everything is fine…but that we need to go see a genetic counselor and get a more in depth ultrasound.

24 hours pass, waiting and praying. Our appointment is here. Meagan and I are in the sonogram room waiting on the doctor. The jelly is applied and he begins the test.

…Deep breaths…Silence…Clicking on the computer… Silence…More clicking…For what seems like an eternity…

The doctor apologizes and says he is trying to concentrate and will explain everything very soon. He places the sonogram controller back and slowly turns toward us.

“I do not have good news to tell you” he replies after finishing the test. “I am so sorry to say  your baby has three severe birth defects. The first and the most severe is Anencephaly. The skull and brain have not and will not fully form; I hate to tell you this, but this is a fatal defect. This will not be a viable baby.” 


“Not viable? Surely this is wrong. We’ve done everything right, how can this be happening?” I think as he continues explaining our baby’s condition. He begins to explain our options: to terminate now and save the heartache and hurt of carrying a baby that will not survive, or to carry the baby and give birth to a little human who won’t make it outside the womb. 

Talk about a tidal wave of emotions. 

He asks us if we still would like to know the gender and tells us we are having a little boy. We leave the doctor in shock of what we have heard.

Five days later I sit here writing this post. Without a doubt this has been the hardest five days of my life. Meagan and I sit on the edge of tears at most moments. We have continued to find the complete and utter need for family and friends. They have been there, crying with us, and supporting us through every step. Our dependance on Jesus has never been greater. He has carried us through each and every day and will continue to do so; it's the kind of God that He is. 


We believe He is a God that heals the brokenness all around us and Asher's story is one he will redeem. In the coming months we will be blogging about his life and all the adventures we can cram in while we have him. I would ask that you would pray for complete healing for Asher, for strength for Meagan and I and for God's Glory to be all over this journey. He cares far more for little Asher than we ever could. 

We thank God for His love, we stand in awe of His power. 

-Asher's Daddy

19 comments:

  1. I love all three of y'all and pray for y'all everyday.

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  2. Been a long time since I've wept, but I do so now with you. A body of believers in Round Rock will be praying for you.

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  3. God is already being glorified by your testimony of faith. Asher's life will certainly be a blessing far greater than you and your wife can imagine. I will remember you all in prayer.

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  4. My heart is bleeding for you, Megan and little Asher. We love and support you with prayer. May the Lord empower your family during this emotional time. Know, we are close....so, we can be there in a moments call. Love you dear family.

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  5. Chris and Meagan, just from reading thispost I can feel the strength that God has given yall. I love what you said about God loving Asher more than you ever could... I need to be reminded of that when I know people close to me are hurting. Praying for yalls journey.

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  6. Praying for you guys! With God by yalls side he will give the strength for every day!

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  7. Praying with you! Our God is mighty! Praying for magnificent healing, perfect peace and comfort for the now.

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  8. I've never met you Chris but my mom and your dad worked together for 30+ years. I can tell from reading the story about Asher that you and your wife are blessed with a strong faith in God. My wife Keri (who grew up w/ your sister) and I will be praying for you guys.

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  9. Jesus do something MIRACULOUS! There's nothing too hard for God. We will pray and believe for a turn around. May Asher live long and enjoy life outside the womb. May God give you Asher's mommy and daddy the strength and the grace to continue to preserve his life and love him for as long as he is with you. God bless you for not terminating his life. I applaud your boldness to share such an intimate event in your life with us all. God all glory belongs to you, please honor their testimony in Jesus name. Amen.

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  10. Praying for God to do what only He can do and heal sweet baby Asher. Prayers of comfort for you and Meagan going up.

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  11. Praying for you and your family.

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  12. Hi my name is Rocio and my baby was also diagnosed with Anencephaly... we will be praying for you <3 stay strong and dont lose your faith and hope.
    Father, open our hearts
    to understand your teaching
    and help us to become one in faith and praise.
    Grant this through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son,
    who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit,
    one God, for ever and ever. AMEN <3

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  13. Dear Jesus, intersect this bewildering news with Your presence. Be so very near. Carry baby Asher, and if it be Your will, HEAL him completely. Whatever Your will, we choose to rest in Your beautiful sovereignty, Your availability, and Your provision. Amen.

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  14. We love you guys and Asher so much! Praying for you and your family!

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  15. Chris, Meagan, and Asher we are lifting you all in prayer. We serve a mighty GOD! May His grace and mercy pour over you. The Boger Family

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  16. Praying through tears for you and your Family...Praying for a miracle...through the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ may you find Peace. Val and Sherri Jacklin

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  17. I haven't met either one of you. I heard about you and Asher through a good friend of yours. I have been and will continue to pray for you and your sweet Asher.
    May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13

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  18. Dear precious kids,
    What an amazing journey God has us on! We are so full of joy after reading this today. Thank you for always pointing us to Jesus. We continue to be so proud of you three!
    We love you!
    Mom & Dad

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